Whether you do good or bad, there will always be someone who has something negative to say. Have you ever sat back and realized that by worrying about other people's lives it sets you back. Often people wonder and worry about the small details of other's personal business. What gives someone the right to judge and worry about how another is living if it isn't affecting anyone else. No one is perfect, we all have faults, quirks and habits. No one person is the same, and that is one of the neatest things EVER. No one person is right in all they do and no one person has the same path to take in life. That's just one of the many reasons we don't need to and shouldn't be worried about other's situations, or else we won't go anywhere ourselves.
Take it as flattery. When people care so much about one's life it truly is a reflection on their own life. They aren't creating fulfillment for themselves therefore anyone else who is doing something worth mentioning, will become the center of attention and discussion.
It is important to never measure ourselves by the standards of other people. Especially when the loudest ones are the ones that don't know us at all. These are the ones that just know of us, have preconceived notions of us or want to think poorly of us because they allow jealousy and comparison to swell in their hearts instead of love and acceptance. It is unfortunate and sad knowing some individuals choose to live life tearing down others instead of lifting others up. When we allow others to sway our decisions and impact our thoughts, we lose our true sense of self and become less dimensional. Everyone will always have an opinion, it is what we do with that opinion that makes all the difference. We must not take others opinions personally, we know who we are and more importantly whose we are, God's children, loved for every imperfection and accepted in all ways and forever forgiven.
It has taken me a long time to understand why this happens...why do people care what I am doing? I have encountered many people like this in my life. Their interest in my life for not even knowing me has at times made me question why? I really am not that interesting, or maybe I am. Or maybe I jut have passions, dreams, dedication and a purpose in life. I know what I want and I work hard for it. Often time others who do not have our best interests in mind, do not want to ever see us living a good, pleasing life striving for excellence and accomplishing our goals. But at the same time, I also find interest in
people's lives, but these people are my family and close friends. What I care about is their well being and happiness. I don't care to hone on a mistake someone makes or a 'wrong' decision because we all make poor choices. We all fall into ruts and we all are human. I really don't choose to follow others lives who are not close to me. Life is too short to worry what others are doing. We should be so involved in our own aspirations and our family and significant others lives and encouraging one another that there is not even an ounce of time to think negatively about others behaviors, for that is not our business.
Remember when we point fingers at someone three are always pointing back at ourselves. Strive to love yourself, look at the light within you and I guarantee you will start to see the light and love in others.
"Don't be fooled by those who say such things, for "bad company corrupts good character." 1 Corinthians 15:33
Let's strive to be the people others want to be around because we have constructive things to discuss, not people's lives.
"Your perceptions of others reveal so much about your own personality," says Dustin Wood, assistant professor of psychology at Wake Forest and lead author of the study, about his findings.
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