Forgiveness 101

When we forgive, we free ourselves from anger, confusion, and disappointment. Forgiveness may not be easy sometimes, but think about how often God forgives us when we deserve it the least.

Forgiveness is a choice, its not based on worthiness, it is necessary, it will be a process, and it is not a natural instinct. I know this can be easier said than done, but why not try.

Forgive for you.

"I can have peace of mind only when I forgive rather than judge." - Gerald Jampolsky

You have the power to forgive, if you want to that is. Forgiveness is 100% a conscious decision we make. If we truly want to move forward there is only one option, to get rid of any resentment and bitterness, forgive and let go. However, the key is to be genuine in the process.

Does the individual deserve forgiveness? Well let's think....do you, or I deserve forgiveness? NO, probably not. Thankfully it is not based on one's worthiness or else we would all be in trouble. I have found myself to be an overly forgiving person. Some people may say that I will get hurt or walked on more by forgiving, but I don't find that to be the case. I forgive because it frees the soul and because everyone deserves a second chance. This can truly be a difficult yet humbling obstacle.

When we struggle to forgive, think of this verse, Luke 17:4 says "Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying 'I repent,' you must forgive them." Forgiveness is necessary and God asks us to do so.

Forgiveness is a process, I like to think the more often we practice this the easier it becomes. Unfortunately, that is just not true. I do believe if we all practice the act of forgiving, understand everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect. we can love one another that much more.

lastly, forgiveness is not a natural act. Especially, coming from someone with an extreme competitive nature...sometimes forgiveness is not the first thing on my mind. Thoughts of revenge and animosity overwhelm my brain. But, why get bitter, when you can get better? Am I right? Just teasing...kind of. There is no room for negative and angry thoughts if you want to live a positive and productive life. Learn to forgive and work to change the mindset of getting even into a mindset of love and humility. Whatever you do to the least of these you do unto me..Jesus once said. That thought lingers through my head whenever I think wrongfully or want to act out of anger. Forgiveness is a process, don't give up.

Forgiveness is an act of love.

Your Girl Next Door and So Much More,

Danika Tramburg