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Can't Control Everything.

Updated: Aug 4, 2020

We frequently attempt to be in control of our lives, but ever so often we get thrown a curve ball and realize how futile our attempts have been. More often than not when we plan things in life, they rarely go as expected...Sometimes we have to surrender to the fact that we are not in control.

I just came off the high of my life. I competed for the title of Miss United States 2017 and placed in the top 10 among talented, smart, beautiful, and driven woman from across the country in the sunny Orlando, Florida.

Why do good things happen to bad people and why do bad things happen to good people? No one is really good, we all fall short of God's glory. Only God is good, but we can be comforted in knowing that he is always in control and everything works out for the good of those that love him.

It had been three days since my family had been back from Florida, and the first day I didn't have to work in FOREVER! My dad came home early to get ready for Wednesday night horseshoes. per usual :)

But something was different this time.

After begging my sister to come over with the kids all day, she finally arrived. Looking back, this is the exact moment I saw God's hand in my life once again. My dad was not acting right and could barely get a word out of his mouth. he couldn't move and when my sister grabbed his arm he was ice cold. After an unnecessary amount of time trying to convince my stubborn father we needed to go to the hospital, we were on our way. Upon arrival the physicians made us aware that our dad was indeed having a heart attack and was being rushed into emergency surgery.

Needless to say one stent, being shocked six times while awake, and one triple bypass surgery later, I am beyond blessed to still have my dad. There were so many pieces of the puzzle that came together that day. Tears are welling up in my eyes right now writing this almost a year later. These things didn't just magically fall into place, it was put into place by someone much greater than us.

Almost losing someone that close to you, changes you. Not only did it put things into perspective, but it also changed my attitude. It's important to live more lightheartedly, the doctor even told my Dad that's exactly what he needed to do. One of the causes of his heart attack - sweating the small stuff. We can't control everything that happens in life, so why do we worry about it so much. As easy as it can be to get upset over small things, remember someone else has it worse than us. Learn to live in the moment and not worry about what may happen next, because we will often be proven wrong and God has a pretty funny sense of humor. When we think something is going just as planned, and exactly how WE want, he will remind us that what we think is best for us may not truly be the best.

Attitude is everything. What is stopping us from not being the most positive versions of ourselves every day? I mean honestly, life is too short to waste one breath on a bitter attitude. Before we over react or get road rage or let angry thoughts take over our minds, remember your life can change in the blink of an eye and the people in it don't have a guaranteed time with us. So live each day with a full heart and no regrets, without worrying about what may happen next, because whatever is meant to be will be.

There is something that is liberating about knowing we don't have full control over everything that happens in our lives. Remember to not stress over the minuscule situations that ultimately can't be controlled. We all have someone watching over us that has our best interest in mind, and essentially is in control.

P.S. I love you, Dad.

Just another example about the cool things that happen in our life that is not under our control. Pretty neat! Watch the video in the link below:

Your Girl Next Door and So Much More,

Danika Tramburg

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